Not long after I gave birth to Hua Zhe, a midwife in her 60’s advised me “not to carry your baby too much, he’ll get used to it and comes to expect it”.
Then, an experienced operator of a child care centre said similar thing, “Don’t carry your son too much. Leave him in the cot except when you change diapers and feed him.”
My mother-in-law also imparted her words of wisdom, “Adults’ bodies are very ”heaty’, don’t carry the baby too much. Also, you’ll spoil him and he’ll expect you to carry him all the time.”
Dear aunty, uncle and Mama, SORRY because I am a rebellious person. I carry the baby almost all the time during his waking hours and only put him in the cot when he sleeps. Yes yes, I know I won’t have much time for other things. I know he’ll want me to carry him always. But I believe that carrying the baby creates bonding and instills sense of security.
So what about other work at home and my hobbies? I guess I just have to include the baby in all these. It’s unrealistic to expect the same life after his birth, no?
